Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. (Romans 12:9-21 ESV)
Don’t believe the lie that says “I’m just not a relational person”. We were all created to be relational. Some just choose to operate from hurts & woundings.
God has designed us to learn patterns of relating in our family of origin. In His plan, we should be learning honesty, responsibility, and love, and then teaching them to our children. But when families model other ways of relating, children learn those as well. We will always pick what is familiar - until we develop a new familiar.
Bothas, allow me to place a nugget of wisdom in your spirit:
Unless you have every aspect of your life together (emotionally, physically, spiritually), you have NO right to judge & discount/dismiss a sista by her perceived faults. Whatever list you have…trust me, a woman that has her stuff together has one too.
For example, a woman is looking for a leader. Contrary to these false opinions, women WANT to be lead. So, if you can’t lead yourself, then how can you lead her?
The Grizzlies PA announcer
A Part-time National Anthem Singer
A Chick-fil-A manager
A Worship Leader
The LuvMud MC’er
An aspiring radio broadcaster
A nerdy movie buff
A good cook
A dang good singer
A Son
The oldest brother of 5
A Nephew
A Grandson
A Cousin
A Father
Their Teeth brusher
Their Clothes dresser
Their Booboo maker-betterer
Their Shoe tie-er
Their Dance Party Initiator
Their Eggs, Pancakes & Sausage Maker
Their “Hold-Ju” granter
Their “I Love You” sayer
Their Best Buddy
A Husband
My Mover
My Put-er Together-er
Extremely Patient with me
Our Bacon bringer
A grace giver
My Tender lover
Tolerant of my craziness
Our Spiritual Leader
My care taker
Hilarious
Kind
Giving
Thoughtful
Humble
Good
Repentant
My pointer to the Cross
My pusher towards holiness
My best friend
A son of the King
Forgiven
Loved
Known
Provided for
Receiver of Grace and Mercy
The finder of his identity in Christ
Resting in the Saviors Arms
Connected to the Vine
Consistent
Appreciative
Public & Privately the same person
This is by no means an exhaustive list…I could go on and on, but it’s not necessary (you get the point). I love Dwayne Rick Trotter, Jr. and I just wanted you to know who him.
